I listened with great sadness as someone I care about told me of the end of their 35 year marriage. Knowing the circumstances, I wasn’t entirely surprised, yet still sad. Then this person said something that made me stop and think. They felt that they had wasted 35 years of their life. I immediately wanted to say no, of course that wasn’t the case. However, it was too important of a moment for an off the cuff answer. So, having given it some thought, here is what I plan to say to this person:
At no time is our life a waste of time. Even the bad times, they take us on life’s journey. They teach and train us. If we can come out the other side and we are not bitter, then we’ve won. Yes, life has it’s ups and downs. Yes, we can spend a million lifetimes on the “what ifs”. No, it’s better to appreciate this journey we call life. We must ask ourselves, “What have I learned from this?” Then, we must pull ourselves up, dust our wounded pride off, and move on. See that bend just ahead in your path? See the good just beyond it, and appreciate your life journey!