Reality TV, Fake News, And Then There Is The Real World.

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I’m sure you would agree, real life is nothing like what you see on reality TV.  But we Americans? Many of us are obsessed with this form of the boob tube. This week, I had a conversation with someone who told me about something that happened on a reality show that she watched. So, she went on to say, that’s how it is and she should get what she wanted based on this fact. We’re ruined, I thought to myself. To fill our minds constantly with this non-reality, it is messing us up. Then I worry about the most fragile among us. What do they think when they watch this stuff? Do they see the world through this prism of editing, and “nudging” of the truth, and think they can be famous even with the worst of deeds? I don’t know, but it gives me pause for thought.

Americans spend 1/3 of their free time watching television and of that 67% are reality shows

Then there is the newly popular phrase “Fake News“. Do you believe what you see on the news? Granted, most news agencies will give the facts about the serious stories. But, it makes my blood boil when I see these professional journalists getting emotional, and giving their obvious opinions and leanings (whatever that leaning is) on their shows. I’m quick to change the channel, I simply don’t need them telling me what I should think, I can make up my own mind (and that is where those facts come in handy). Even further assaults are made on our reality by friends, though well meaning, spreading un-truths as facts through social media. I recently experienced someone being in an absolute panic because she believed we would have 15 days of darkness next month based on something she saw on social media. A little digging on my part (something I wish she would have done before she posted this) and I found this was a known false story.

Snopes.com is an excellent fact checking site.

So, the real world is real. It’s not scripted for television, edited to give the best impact, or to fit into an hour show. Sometimes it isn’t pretty. At other times, we see the best come out in others and in ourselves. But, it is filled with living, breathing humans. I worry we are losing site of that. When our days are filled with our smartphone, our television shows, and our social media accounts, do we really see each other? No, I’m afraid not, and I’m just as guilty as anyone in this regard. But, I’m working on changing that in myself. I never, ever want to be so detached from the real world that I loose site of caring  about my fellow humans and what they are going through. I know you all feel the same.

Much Love,

Eileen

 

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Perfectionism

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I’ve wasted far too much time in my life trying to be perfect. Desperately never wanting to disappoint anyone. Trying to please everyone. In a nutshell, attempting to live the impossible. The result? Stress and anxiety at every turn. I’ve had enough. I recently had a turning point in this process. That, moment of, okay that’s it, I’m done. Here’s what happened. Happily, I posted several entries on my Facebook page of a recent trip to Paris. This is a place I’ve wanted to visit all my life. I was so excited to share it with my friends and family. Imagine my hurt when one of my family members posted a passive aggressive post to her page making fun of people who post their vacation pictures! Needless to say, she was quickly unfriended. This mean spiritedness. This critical nature. I’m over it.  So, this is my journey to positivity, and surrounding myself with positive people.

This is me trying to be the best me I can, yet not overly worrying things. I hope you’ll peek in from time-to-time to see what is going on with this woman on a mission to the positive. I hope my blog can brighten the day, and give hope to those that maybe going through the same thing.

Much Love,

Eileen

Cancer

One of my best friends in all the world let me know she was diagnosed with cancer yesterday. You know those friends that are in your core group of friends? The ones dear to you that you have been friends with forever? She is one of those friends. So, my world stopped spinning for a moment. It whirred back to life of course, with a jarring start. I paused for a moment, breathless in the thought of life without her.  But, I simply cannot think that way. I must be positive for her!

Then all the stupid things I worried about all week, well, they were gone in an instant. What is important? The ones we love. The good we can do. The joy and enjoyment we can get from our lives. We must not waste any of it, this gift of life. And, we cannot let anyone or anything rob us of our joy in living our unique and beautiful life.

So, please, go hug someone you love. Call that person you’ve been mad at and try to make amends. Yes, our living is beautiful. Yet, it is can be so fragile.

Much Love,

Eileen

For The Love Of The Cozy

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For the love of the cozy…cozy mystery that is! So, it’s been a year. A year since I put my baby, my blood, sweat, and many tears, my book out there into the literary world. Yes, a year of rejection. Yet, a year of learning, learning about my craft of writing, and learning about myself. I’ve learned that for me, life just can’t be all about this book every minute. Sure, it is very important to me, and I want to spend every minute I can making it the best book that I can make it be. But, for me to be truly happy, this book must meld and mix into the other parts of my life that I hold dear. My marriage, my friends, my spirituality, my book, these have to come together in a harmonious whole for me to be the person that I want to be. I’m sure you all feel the same.

Anyway, my cozy has taken me on many twists and turns (just like any mystery should). But, now I feel I’m in the home stretch. One of the rejections I received said it just wasn’t as good as it could be. I agree. So, I have made a MAJOR plot change. I’m so very happy with it! This change has gotten me  close to the book that has been in my head for so long now (it’s been amazing to me how hard that has been to do). So, here’s to another year of searching for the way to get my book published. I won’t stop until I do.

Never give up y’all.

Much Love,

Eileen

 

Live And Let Live

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What is it that we do to ourselves when we don’t live and let live? We rob ourselves of friendships and family relationships that could have flourished in the bright light of love. We deprive ourselves of those others who could touch our lives down to the bone and marrow. The ones that could make us the best version of ourselves. So, what is a difference in politics? Or, how about a difference in religion? I know, taboo topics these. Yet, they are the very things that can divide us, separating us from each other. But, what about the smaller things, the nuances of these taboo subjects? What if someone celebrates a different holiday than you? Or, maybe doesn’t celebrate at all. Does it make that one less worthy of our time? Simply because they think and act a bit different than we do? It shouldn’t be so. But, it is. Can we see past our differences, and look for what we share in common?

As always, sending you much love.

Eileen

Few Things In Life Are Free

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Yes, few things in life are free. But, there is one gift you can give to yourself. It’s the gift of forgiving another. Granted, there are some things that are unforgivable, yet, more often than not, forgiveness is possible. Like the lightest of feathers, forgiveness will lightens our  load and frees up our heart for better pursuits. Forgiveness is a cold rush of water splashed over us on a hot summer day. It is beauty, it is right to forgive when we can. Like all good things, it can take time, so be patient with yourself if there is someone you can’t forgive right here, right now. Let the feeling come organically, and it will at the right time for it. But, do try to forgive, and give yourself the chance to feel the lightness. Give that gift to yourself!

Much Love,

Eileen

Why Do We Come Together?

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As I enjoy a day at the beach with my dear husband, and observe the ones around us, I wonder, what is it that makes us come together? Why do we search high and low for that special someone? My thoughts are interrupted by the pelicans flying above us in their group foundation, even they want to belong, to come together. It’s in us, animals to humans, we need each other.

So why is it hard to admit at times? We may have been hurt in the past. So, we lock our heart down like an underground bunker and guard it with our very existence. But that is no way to live! Forgiveness and forgetfulness of the past is a must. So, love and love deeply. Open the gates and give yourself to others. It’s the way of us as we come together.

Much Love

Eileen