Enjoy Life

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In the past two weeks, I have watched helplessly as two families I know have suffered the unexpected deaths of their loved ones. I’ve tried my best to think of words of comfort. Yet, words just seem to fall flat given the enormity of these terrible losses. So what to do? Truly I think we honor these ones by living our best lives. My mother’s words ring in my ears, “Don’t sweat the small stuff,” she would tell me. Good advice to a daughter with an overactive imagination; advice I tend to forget from time-to-time. So, the gossip, the back stabbing out there, we simply have to let it go. All the stupid stuff that we worry about, we must brush it from our mind like a stray hair that has fallen from our head. Enjoying life? It’s about our friends. It’s about our families. The gold in our lives is the time spent with the ones we love. So, hold those ones tight y’all. Don’t ever let go over hurt feelings, our mis-understandings. My two beloved families had no idea they would be dealing with these tragedies just mere days ago. Nothing is a guarantee in this world, so breath in, breath out. It is vital that we make the best of each and every day!

Much Love,

Eileen

Live And Let Live

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What is it that we do to ourselves when we don’t live and let live? We rob ourselves of friendships and family relationships that could have flourished in the bright light of love. We deprive ourselves of those others who could touch our lives down to the bone and marrow. The ones that could make us the best version of ourselves. So, what is a difference in politics? Or, how about a difference in religion? I know, taboo topics these. Yet, they are the very things that can divide us, separating us from each other. But, what about the smaller things, the nuances of these taboo subjects? What if someone celebrates a different holiday than you? Or, maybe doesn’t celebrate at all. Does it make that one less worthy of our time? Simply because they think and act a bit different than we do? It shouldn’t be so. But, it is. Can we see past our differences, and look for what we share in common?

As always, sending you much love.

Eileen

Fabulous On This Friday…The Art Of Being, The Joy Of The Journey

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On this Friday, I’ve been reflecting on something I read this past weekend. The article mentioned while it can be good to imitate another person’s good qualities, it isn’t good to imitate everything about the other person. To mimic how someone speaks, dresses, etc is well, it’s weird. So, it’s the art of being ourselves and enjoying that journey, wherever it takes us.  I took this advice and breathed a sigh of relief. Sure, I’ve learned to accept and love my individuality (my weirdness if you will, I admit it, I’m a bit out there. I’m different. I think most creatives are.)  However, it was nice to hear it, that it is okay to be just who you are, you.

So, on this Friday, this joy of the week, love being you. Embrace what makes you unique. Then, go out there and have fun this weekend, we’ve worked really hard, we deserve it!

Much Love,

Eileen

Maybe on a Monday…What is light?

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Just as the sun rises gently and gives off it’s warmth, our brightness rises from within us. I don’t know about you, but my brightness as a person is hard to find at times. It is like someone hits the dimmer switch on my heart from time-to-time. But, just as the waves hit the beach, I always make my way back to positivity, I’m sure you dear reader do the same. So, just as we are truth, we are light. We are the brightness of being. We are the sunrise in the life of someone we love. And, we have a choice in the matter. We can choose the light. Or, we can choose to leave the dimmer switch on. So, on this Monday, this day that gets such a bad rap in each week of our days, we can choose light. Enjoy your day and be that brightness!

Much Love,

Eileen

Wishing On This Wednesday…That Everyone Appreciate Their Life Journeys

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I listened with great sadness as someone I care about told me of the end of their 35 year marriage. Knowing the circumstances, I wasn’t entirely surprised, yet still sad. Then this person said something that made me stop and think. They felt that they had wasted 35 years of their life. I immediately wanted to say no, of course that wasn’t the case. However, it was too important of a moment for an off the cuff answer. So, having given it some thought, here is what I plan to say to this person:

At no time is our life a waste of time. Even the bad times, they take us on life’s journey. They teach and train us. If we can come out the other side and we are not bitter, then we’ve won. Yes, life has it’s ups and downs. Yes, we can spend a million lifetimes on the “what ifs”.  No, it’s better to appreciate this journey we call life. We must ask ourselves, “What have I learned from this?” Then, we must pull ourselves up, dust our wounded pride off, and move on.  See that bend just ahead in your path? See the good just beyond it, and appreciate your life journey!

Much Love,

Eileen

What Is Truth?

 

We are hearing a lot about truth these days. Fake news has become a new phrase in our day-to-day lives. So, what is truth? Truth is us, each one of us. It’s the mom that stays up all night with her sick child, and then goes into work the next day, never skipping a beat. It’s the dad climbing under his child’s bed at 3:00am to chase away the army of invading monsters that have disturbed his baby’s dream. It’s the teenager who goes to school anyway, despite being bullied, because she knows how important it is to get her education. Truth is our hopes, our dreams, our loves. All this other stuff? It will always spin up and swirl around us like the most vicious twister. But us humans? We’re resilient, we are wonderfully made to hang in there and make it happen come what may. So, don’t sweat it all too much. We’ll figure all this out. Just live your truth, the rest will fall into place.

Much Love,

Eileen

Simple Saturday…Sometimes Life Does Hand You Lemons.

So, three weeks ago today, this happened:

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Yes, that is our home. Attacked by a giant pine tree. A real lemon of a day. But, we weren’t home, no one was hurt. Our poor cats were home, but we found them hiding in the garage. It crashed into my husband’s office…things could have turned out so much worse.  So what do we do with stinky, lemon days like this? Simply deal with it. Obviously, we had no choice but to deal with it. So, the tree guys came and got the tree. The insurance company sent out the adjuster. The contractor has made quick work of the repair (we have our room back, we are now down to mostly the cosmetics of it all.) Take that you lemon! Be gone.

So as not to go nuts, you have to try to find the humor in it all. Our amusement was provided by our cat Sadie Mae. Once the debris was cleaned out of the room, and we knew it was safe to go in there, we took the cats in to inspect. At this point, the room had no ceiling so the attic was visible. Well, Sadie Mae wanted up there in the worst way. She paced the room, meowing and looking up. We told her no and took her out of the room. Well, this week I came home to the workers putting the ceiling in. To my panic, I couldn’t find Sadie Mae anywhere. Yep, you guessed it.  As I was talking to the guys, I hear a faint meow. “I think my cat is in the attic,” I tell the workers. At first, they don’t believe me, but then they hear the meowing. One of them quickly goes up the ladder (the one Sadie Mae probably used to get up  into the attic) and takes apart the ceiling that they just put up. I climb the ladder and am greeted by a very desperate and panicked cat. I got her down and examined her. She’s just fine after her adventure. But, her momma shamed her on Facebook:

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My Facebook friends got a laugh out of it. I hope you all do to.

So, another life lesson learned. It’s pure and simple. Life is not always sunshine and lollipops. It’s raw. It’s unnerving. It’s down right painful at times. Yet, what are we when we come out of the other side of our ordeals? Hopefully stronger, a better version of ourselves. Keep living ya’ll and squash those lemons that you are handed!

Much Love,

Eileen